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The goal of this website is to give support to people who are feeling depressed and unhappy with their lives. I am living in Europe and English is not my native language, I wish you will excuse me if I make some grammatical errors. I decided to write in English because I wish to reach as many people as I can around the world.


Dear Friends,

I was shocked to see a photo of a young Afghan woman who's husband had mutilated her face in a horrific way. The reason was that this 18 years old girl had left her husband who was a member of Taleban. The Taleban community gave the husband a permission to "punish" his wife by cutting off her nose and ears.

The photo of young Bibi Aisha (you can find the photo easily from Google by searching "Bibi Aisha") was chosen as "Photo of the Year" by World Press Photo Organization. It is said that a picture speaks more than 1000 words. Bibi Aisha's photo proves this statement to be correct. The young woman is astonishingly beautiful, her beauty creates a sharp contrast to the horror she went through in the hands of her husband. While we look at the photo, her visible injury does not allow us to forget what she has experienced.

This girl was saved by American troops and lives now in US. She is hoping to receive a prosthetic nose that allows her to live normal life again. While she is waiting for this she hides behind the veil to avoid shocked stare of people around her.

Think of what this girl has gone through. Her scars will never allow her to forget the abuse she experienced in the hands of her husband. The abuse that her own community allowed to take place.

Reading this story made me again appreciate the life and freedom I have in my own country. I was in a relationship with a narcissistic abuser and I suffered greatly, however I now realize that my suffering was small when compared to the suffering of this girl in the hands of her much older husband. When I had enough of constant criticism, mocking, lying and emotional and physical abuse performed by my partner, I was free to leave, no one forced me to stay with my abusive spouse against my will. This is not the case in many countries. In many countries the law does not protect the woman against her abusive husband. In some countries the law allows the husband to kill the wife without any particular reason. In other countries it is allowed to mutilate a beautiful teenager by cutting of her nose and ears just because she wanted her freedom after being abused for years by her old husband.

I wanted to share this story with all of you because it helps to put matters into perspective. This does not mean our own pain is less significant when we are being abused by our spouse. I know how devastating it is to be in a relationship with a narcissistic and abusive partner. I suffered more than I ever believed was possible before I was finally strong enough to leave him. My suffering was very real and so is yours if you are living in an abusive relationship. The purpose of this post is not to suggest that you and I should not feel bad about the emotional pain our negative relationship has caused us. The purpose of this post is to help us to see that in the end of the day our situation could be worse. Much, much worse. You could be this young girl. I could be her.

If you are suffering in a negative relationship and live in a country where the law does not prevent you from leaving when you want, embrace that knowledge. You are free. This will make you feel better about your situation.

Warm hug and love to all of you,



Comments (2)
    Omgosh!! this is so sad. What a terrible man to do this May God HAVE mercy on his wretched soul. EVIL. PURE EVIL. SATAN ALIVE N WELL ON PLANET EARTH. GOD ALMIGHTY HAVE MERCY.
  • Anonymous  - So sad
    A shocking story and photo... People can be so cruel.
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